I am a Person Centred counsellor. In Person Centred counselling the relationship between the counsellor and the client is paramount; based on empathy, honesty and respect. There are no gimmicks, no techniques or strategies. A Person Centred counselling session provides the client with the time and space for them to talk about whatever might be on their mind. And I do mean "whatever". I will endeavour to listen, reflect and summarise in a completely non-judgemental manner.
As the relationship is so important to the success of the sessions, when a client initially makes contact I will always advise them to meet with several prospective counsellors. Although we are all trained in Person Centred Counselling, as human beings we have to bring our personalities into our work and as such, just as in any other relationship, what suits one person might not suit another.
There is no agenda, no expectations, no right or wrong way and no rules except those agreed between the client and the counsellor, in the form of a contract. This will be discussed and agreed at the first full counselling session.
Person centred counselling provides the client with the opportunity to have a deep and meaningful relationship based on genuine warmth, respect and acceptance. Through such a relationship the client can gradually begin to explore difficult facets of their experience, which they are finding painful or challenging.
Looking at the picture above how overwhelmed are you feeling at the moment? Ideally anything from frame 3 onwards and I would suggest that you seek help.
Perhaps this question is best answered by first looking at a definition of counselling. The following comes from the BAC (British Association of Counsellors) in 1986, now re-named the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).
"Counselling is the skilled and principled use of relationship to facilitate self-knowledge, emotional acceptance and growth and the optimal development of personal resources. The overall aim is to provide an opportunity to work towards living more satisfyingly and resourcefully. Counselling relationships will vary according to need but may be concerned with developmental issues, addressing and resolving specific problems, making decisions, coping with crisis, developing personal insights and knowledge, working through feelings of inner conflict or improving relationships with others".
In short most people, at some point in their lives, would benefit from counselling to a lesser or greater degree and in general I have found that all clients experience counselling in an entirely different way, but it would seem that it is never in the way that they expected!.
What can you expect?
Some Issues I've Encountered